What to do when a new habit doesn’t work?
During my journey of changing my life by changing my habits, I noticed something interesting and I want to share this with you.
There 2 types of habits
There are 2 types of habits; the ones you want to do and the ones you don’t want to do.
Habits you don’t want to do:
- Cold showers
- Household chores
- Eat healthy
Habits you do want to do:
You probably can name a few reasons why you stop with the habits from the first list. For example, your mind wants to be safe and spare energy, you like your warm shower too much, you don’t want to spend much time picking ingredients and cooking a good meal.
But why is it so difficult to start building a habit of something you like to do?
For me, I wanted to sketch again. I always liked sketching and when I’m doing it, I’m in a flow. I forget about time and I enjoy seeing an idea come to life.
So in Habigrow, I created a program to sketch 3 times a week. But on the day itself, I didn’t do it. I decided to buy a good sketchbook and better pencils. I gave it a try and I was proud, but the next time I didn’t do it … Why??
After seeing this video it clicked:
Basically, the problem was that I had so many ideas in my head that I couldn’t pick one. Or the ideas were too complicated to sketch and I didn’t know how to start.
Draw one thing, every single day.
There are 2 things that are very powerful about this:
- You become very good at one thing, instead of a little bit good of a lot of things.
- You don’t have to think about what you are going to do.
If there is something you are passionate about, but you don’t do it, make it simple. So if it is drawing, pick one object and draw it every day. If it’s writing, choose one subject and write about it every day. If it’s cooking, pick one recipe and make it better every time.